Off-course not steve jobs probably lived in his office and still does. hard work is the only way out and specially for people who are not COO of a 100 Billion dollar company who are going to be going IPO very soon.

I believe it is important to spend time with your family but in real world it is not always easy to provide for your family and spend time with them every single day.

Steve jobs is a outlier. I think work should not be about 9 to 5 but more about state of mind, For example I don't start working until 10 am which is lame I know, but that's the time when my brain starts working the best and in the nights after people go to sleep. Is that wrong ?

My question to you is what makes you happy strict 9 to 5 or the feeling of accomplishment personaly and proffesionaly